I see lots of posts in groups on social media about things such as;
- would you date someone with no teeth
- would you date someone who doesn't see their children
- should I date someone who is unemployed
- what do you think about dating someone who still lives with their ex
etc etc. the list goes on...and on.....and on.....
And it got me thinking.....
...we all have our own personal boundaries of what we are looking for in a partner, what is right for one person won't be right for the next.
Why are you searching externally for validation as to if you should date someone or not?
To be in a space to start dating you have to know and understand your truth. What is important to you? Not your best mate, a friend at work, the neighbour down the road or bloke in the pub, or random people in Facebook groups who don't even know you(!), but you?
What do you need from a partner? What are your relationships goals, what is totally unacceptable to you and what are the things that are non-negotiable that you must have?
Maybe take 10 mins with a cuppa today in a quiet space and spend time thinking about this, write down your needs, your non-negotiables and your relationship goals.
Keep the list and look back at it whenever your questioning yourself in regards to dating/a partner and hopefully this should make the answer clearer and put you back on the right track.
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